Comments on: Hanging Up on the Phone http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/ Black man who referees the never-ending battle between flesh and spirit Sun, 08 Nov 2009 00:03:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: K. http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-181 Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:09:23 +0100 http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-181 I feel him on texting being impersonal...but it sounds VERY strange for a grown man to say that to another grown man. Whoa. I generally prefer face-to-face interaction. I borderline hate texting unless it's brief and don't have the time to sit and talk on the phone all day. <strong>K, I also prefer the face to face interaction. Like I told Shazza, it seems he wants daily convos with his official sponsees as well as me. Still feels weird. But then these 12-step programs draw in people (like me :) ) who are crazy to start with.</strong> I feel him on texting being impersonal…but it sounds VERY strange for a grown man to say that to another grown man. Whoa. I generally prefer face-to-face interaction. I borderline hate texting unless it’s brief and don’t have the time to sit and talk on the phone all day.

K, I also prefer the face to face interaction. Like I told Shazza, it seems he wants daily convos with his official sponsees as well as me. Still feels weird. But then these 12-step programs draw in people (like me :) ) who are crazy to start with.

]]> by: Shazza http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-179 Wed, 06 Aug 2008 06:58:39 +0100 http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-179 LMAO...A i agree, when i first read this i thought mhhh... dude likes you... and there are married homosexuals out there, closeted ones… <strong>Yeah, Shazza, I thought of that. I talked to one of his sponsees, a female, who says he's constantly calling her also. So I don't know...dude might be just weird...and remember, he is a recovering addict.</strong> LMAO…A i agree, when i first read this i thought mhhh… dude likes you…

and there are married homosexuals out there, closeted ones…

Yeah, Shazza, I thought of that. I talked to one of his sponsees, a female, who says he’s constantly calling her also. So I don’t know…dude might be just weird…and remember, he is a recovering addict.

]]> by: A http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-178 Tue, 05 Aug 2008 17:12:51 +0100 http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-178 Sounds gay to me. Period. <strong>Yeah, I thought so too at first, but I learned he's married with two kids. But someone else suggested the same to me. I kinda shrugged it off, but sometimes I wonder. He has shared he had chexual issues when he was a kid. The specifics now escape me. </strong> Sounds gay to me. Period.

Yeah, I thought so too at first, but I learned he’s married with two kids. But someone else suggested the same to me. I kinda shrugged it off, but sometimes I wonder. He has shared he had chexual issues when he was a kid. The specifics now escape me.

]]> by: Hostess http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-177 Mon, 04 Aug 2008 15:35:09 +0100 http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-177 He's not trying to be YOUR friend. He's latchingon to you to be HIS friend. <strong>Interesting. He likes to say the first time we met at a meeting, I looked to him like I could use a friend, based on the fact I was hanging on the periphery of others' conversations after the meeting. I really was waiting to introduce myself to folks. Then I was planning on leaving and going about my business. Most guys my age aren't looking for any new best friends in any fellowship, especially male ones, so his behavior is a bit unusual.</strong> He’s not trying to be YOUR friend. He’s latchingon to you to be HIS friend.

Interesting. He likes to say the first time we met at a meeting, I looked to him like I could use a friend, based on the fact I was hanging on the periphery of others’ conversations after the meeting. I really was waiting to introduce myself to folks. Then I was planning on leaving and going about my business. Most guys my age aren’t looking for any new best friends in any fellowship, especially male ones, so his behavior is a bit unusual.

]]> by: rawdawgbuffalo http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-176 Mon, 04 Aug 2008 10:26:49 +0100 http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-176 i feel u i lived 3 yrs wo a phone <strong>So how'd the telemarketers catch up to you? LOL :)</strong> i feel u i lived 3 yrs wo a phone

So how’d the telemarketers catch up to you? LOL :)

]]> by: Shazza http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-175 Mon, 04 Aug 2008 07:09:07 +0100 http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-175 Honestly Pro... the guy sounds a bit too much, too friendly, too needy, etc... complaining u haven't spoken for a while??? i dunno much about recovering addicts, but that is not normal for guys, esp someone u have just met.... i am kidding about the marriage, i am a hopeless romantic and dread the idea that at some point the romance dies and everything becomes too ordinary:(.. i want fireworks, all the way... <strong>You're right, this guy says my recovery "takes a break" on weekends 'cause I'm not always available to take his calls. He half kids about it, but I'm not sure. He'll say some stuff like "are you OK? are you playing cards? Are you trickin?" I need to talk to a couple of his actual sponsees to get an idea of what he expects from them. And this guy is well known in the fellowship for somewhat off the chain behavior (e.g., being married but always at meetings, then hanging out in the clubs; always wanting to be noticed, etc.) A whole lot more to it, but I don't wanna go to far in the blog. As far as marriage, I hate to tell you, human nature being what it is, you'll have to work at keeping fireworks going unless you're gonna spend your whole lives on vacation..... </strong> Honestly Pro… the guy sounds a bit too much, too friendly, too needy, etc… complaining u haven’t spoken for a while??? i dunno much about recovering addicts, but that is not normal for guys, esp someone u have just met….

i am kidding about the marriage, i am a hopeless romantic and dread the idea that at some point the romance dies and everything becomes too ordinary:(.. i want fireworks, all the way…

You’re right, this guy says my recovery “takes a break” on weekends ‘cause I’m not always available to take his calls. He half kids about it, but I’m not sure. He’ll say some stuff like “are you OK? are you playing cards? Are you trickin?” I need to talk to a couple of his actual sponsees to get an idea of what he expects from them. And this guy is well known in the fellowship for somewhat off the chain behavior (e.g., being married but always at meetings, then hanging out in the clubs; always wanting to be noticed, etc.) A whole lot more to it, but I don’t wanna go to far in the blog.

As far as marriage, I hate to tell you, human nature being what it is, you’ll have to work at keeping fireworks going unless you’re gonna spend your whole lives on vacation…..

]]> by: Shazza http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-174 Sun, 03 Aug 2008 11:30:11 +0100 http://profunksticated.blogsome.com/2008/08/03/hanging-up-on-the-phone/#comment-174 LOL Pro... that guy from your 12 steps sounds like a woman.... i must, i could buy a car with the phone bills i have accummulated over the past 15 years.... and it hasn't stoped.... only a select people i speak to, esp partners... now u r scaring me about marriage, if that means the calls stop.... i think i might just be ok with being a girlfriend then...:) <strong>Shazza, I talked to this guy today about his leaving me a couple of messages saying we haven't talked in four days, and he says that's how it is when you have a network of other recovering addicts. Only thing is, I know several people in the fellowship, but he's the only person I know in this fellowship that expects a daily conversation. So I'm not sure what's going on :) About that marriage thing don't get scared; I'm only sharing my experience with my marriage and phone convos. </strong> LOL Pro… that guy from your 12 steps sounds like a woman….
i must, i could buy a car with the phone bills i have accummulated over the past 15 years…. and it hasn’t stoped….
only a select people i speak to, esp partners… now u r scaring me about marriage, if that means the calls stop…. i think i might just be ok with being a girlfriend then…:)

Shazza, I talked to this guy today about his leaving me a couple of messages saying we haven’t talked in four days, and he says that’s how it is when you have a network of other recovering addicts. Only thing is, I know several people in the fellowship, but he’s the only person I know in this fellowship that expects a daily conversation. So I’m not sure what’s going on :) About that marriage thing don’t get scared; I’m only sharing my experience with my marriage and phone convos.

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